Who we work with
The clients that we see are from many different backgrounds and are people just like you. Many come in with a lot of confusion and shame about needing help. It is ok to feel this way. We are not expecting you to understand the process and will work with you so things become more clear.
Below are some comments we often hear when someone first comes to see us:
"I should be able to sort this out myself."
"I have always been so strong and able to deal with things."
"I don't know what's wrong with me."
"I don't like talking about my feelings."
"Are you going to analyze me?"
Being a man comes in many different forms and our therapists bring their experience so they are able to work in a way that suits each clients' needs. This is known as Person Centred Counselling and is at the heart of what we do at mxn.
Some Common Themes
Many of us grow up with someone else's perspective on feelings and this can at times leave us confused about what is happening in our daily life. Our feeling can often dominate our reality and sometimes this reality can feel overwhelming. There can also often be shame around how we process the thoughts about how we feel.
Working with a counsellor can help develop an understanding of these feelings and a sense of empowerment can lead to a much healthier and fulfilling life. This enables us to take control and begin enjoying our connections and environment as we navigate our way through life.
Understanding ourselves in relation to others can be challenging at times, particularly if we consider the confusion talked previously around feelings.
Working with a counsellor can help us understand our process when in relationships with others, whether it is with a partner, family member, children, work colleague, or friends. When we are better able to understand our part in this process we can adapt and make changes to ensure the end result is different.
Trauma is an experience of severe psychological distress that follows a horrible or life threatening event and can happen both in childhood and adulthood. These events can lead to emotional disturbances such as extreme anxiety, anger, sadness, survivors guilt and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
3 TYPES OF TRAUMA:
Acute trauma: A single stressful or dangerous life event.
Chronic trauma: Repeated prolonged exposure to highly stressful events. Some examples are child abuse, bullying, or domestic violence.
Complex trauma: Prolonged and repeated exposure to stressful events.
Suicidal ideation can be extremely overwhelming when it happens and people often feel really isolated and scared in the experience. SI is recognised as cognitive obstruction, a cognitive rigidity, dichotomous thinking and difficulty problem solving. These three things work together to stop someone having a full perspective on their life and taking one’s life can seem to be the only option.
*If you, or someone you know is experiencing suicidal ideation please contact the suicide prevention line on the number shown on our Get in Touch page.
Self harm is the act of intentionally hurting oneself by inflicting pain and damage to the body and can include cutting, scratching, biting, burning and sometimes unsafe sex. It is typically sign of psychological distress and can also be associated with substance misuse. Those who self harm often feel a sense of relief from the feelings they are experiencing but this doesn’t help to resolve the pain long term and these repressed feelings often become worse over time.
Sexual Orientation & Identity
Sexual orientation can refer to the sexual, romantic, physical and emotional attraction and how someone identifies with these attractions. It is multi-layered and differs from gender identity. Sexual attraction has many different layers and there are many different descriptors for how a person refers to their sexual orientation. These are:
Heterosexuality – attraction to the opposite sex.
Homosexuality – attraction to the same sex.
Bisexuality – attraction to both sexes.
Pansexuality – attraction to all genders.
Asexuality – attraction to none.
Gender identity differs to SO and is how we identify as male, female or non-binary.